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Adopting Miracles

Adopting Miracles

As both an adoptive parent and therapist, I have grown to learn the many varied aspects and experiences of adoption. There are so many unique facets in the stories of these children and their families, but I will touch on a few.

Christine can be contacted through her website: www.christinealisa.com, email: chris@christinealisa.com and phone: (562) 619-5883.

Recently interviewed on the world renown radio program “The Aware Show” with Lisa Garr, Marriage Family Therapist and Alternative Therapist Christine Alisa is a humble yet powerfully effective therapist and healer.

 

In the words of client Kym K of Long Beach:

“I scheduled an appointment with Christine to help relieve anxiety.

After entering her office and seeing purposefully placed crystals, smelling aromatherapy and hearing calming music, I knew I was in the right place.

The first session was a typical therapy session, going over my history and the issues I was having.

At the end, Christine suggested a few things, one of which was past life regression. Although I am not skeptical, I am hesitant about tapping into the hidden parts of myself–who knows what you will find? However, she sold me on the fact that although the session could be difficult and/or painful, I am already in pain, so what is the difference? And she was so right! My next session with her, the past life regression, was absolutely amazing, I was finally able to make sense of what I couldn’t understand before. I am so glad I went to Christine and look forward to spending more time with her in the future.”

A Journey of Adoption and Healing: Part Two

As both an adoptive parent and therapist, I have grown to learn the many varied aspects and experiences of adoption. There are so many unique facets in the stories of these children and their families, but I will touch on a few.

Children come to their adoptive parents in several ways. There is the adoption that starts at birth through an agency or open adoption. A growing trend is families who are now choosing fostering with an option to adopt. Then there are special situations where one of the child’s parents is deceased, or have lost parental rights and is subsequently adopted by the new spouse.

Whatever the doorway families take, there are both common and different issues. One philosophy is regarding the relationship with the birth parent/s. One belief is that once the child is adopted it only confuses him/her to interact with “another parent.” Others believe that maintaining a healthy relationship with the birth parent coupled with therapeutic intervention grounds the child. As an adoptive parent, I have embraced both of these philosophies depending on the developmental stage of my daughter.

When my daughter was young, she did not interact with her birth mother and her birth father was out of the picture. My husband and I corresponded with them by phone and mail. I would tell my daughter the story of her adoption; she loved to hear it. As she got older, she wanted to meet her birth mother and we made arrangements to travel to Illinois and spend a few days. Emotionally it was an internal tug-of-war inside me; however, it was clear there was a bond and I went through the steps of acceptance.

My daughter continued with phone conversations with her birth mom and I helped with teaching her about setting boundaries. Sometimes she would become overwhelmed or not know what to say. In time, they developed a rhythm. Later, we welcomed my daughter’s birth family to visit for her high school graduation, which was a meaningful day for all concerned. Unfortunately, her birth mother died when my daughter was in college and she grieved the loss. The birth grandparents have stayed connected and are a support.

I believe adoptions are miracles, but they can also carry emotional baggage for the child. There are feelings of abandonment that often go unresolved.  A few years ago, a teenage client of mine whose parents sent her to a treatment facility in Utah came back to tell me that almost every girl there had been adopted. I really encourage adoptive parents to seek therapy early on to help them through the various stages in the process.

I want to share some of the emotional challenges that my daughter experienced and the interventions that I pursued in my personal story of being an adoptive parent.

It was a glorious day at Disneyland and my daughter laughed and giggled at the sights, characters, and rides. Her two-year-old self was in pure joy. Then the fireworks started and her screaming began. It was relentless. We ran to a store and I asked them to close the doors. We covered her ears, but nothing seemed to calm or satisfy her. She was in some kind of agony.

This behavior puzzled me. I know some kids do not like loud noises, but her reaction was extreme. This experience laid the groundwork for my past life regression journeys with her throughout the subsequent years.

When my daughter was seven, we talked about fireworks and her continuous extreme reactions. I had her remember and sense the firework experience in her mind and take that fear where it was coming from somewhere in the past. She connected into a lifetime where there was cannon fire and men dying all around her. The noise was all consuming and he (she was a man in that life) could not get away. The cannons eventually brought about her death in the traumatic battlefield in the Civil War. After telling me the experience that had engulfed her unconscious, fireworks never bothered her again. Children and adults can be triggered by an event that lies so deeply unresolved in a past life.

Later in high school when my daughter was fifteen years old, she was dealing with some depression. She had experienced bullying in middle school and was adapting to high school life. At the time I was studying Shamanism and I asked her to accompany me to a workshop where she found her power animals and learned to journey. I asked her if she would be willing to do soul retrieval with me. We found that a soul part of her had “left” in a past life as a Native American girl when she wandered away from her village. Another tribe found her, attacked and scalped her. Upon leaving her body she witnessed them killing many of her tribes-people.  It is possible that we “leave” a part of our soul in other lifetimes due to the intensity of the trauma and grief.  It made my heart glad that she was released from the depression.

 

Christine Alisa, MS is a Marriage, Family Therapist, energy teacher, past life regression therapist, shamanic practitioner, and international speaker and trainer of therapists. She leads a shamanic meet-up monthly and provides complimentary discovery sessions that can be booked on her website. Christine is the author of three books:

Turning the Hourglass: Children’s Passage Through Traumas and Past Lives, Wondrous Places of the Heart: Alternative Therapy with Children and Your Amazing Itty Bitty Communicating with Your Teenager Book: 15 Essential Steps to Creating a Better Relationship with Your Teen.  Her upcoming book, Your Amazing Itty Bitty The Ordinary Shaman: 15 Simple Steps to Bring Shamanism Into Your Life is due to be published this year.

Christine can be contacted through her website: www.christinealisa.com, email: chris@christinealisa.com and phone: (562) 619-5883.

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