Donna Bond, MA Transformation Consultant and Professional Life and Business Coach
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A New Way to Relate to Your Emotional System
We are still in it. I guess we should face the fact that “normal” probably isn’t returning anytime soon. If ever. Because we are all now involved in things differently in our life, there is a process of grief that is occurring. It may be apparent for you, or it may be lying just below the surface.
I want to suggest that loving yourself is the only way through it, if you want to make this weird cosmic pause as useful as it can be, you can look at it through a lens of “the opportunity for growth” and leverage it for your own personal transformation.
The Best Way to Get Through an Emotional Crisis
While this may be a perfect time to invite a new strategy into your awareness, it’s also a great way to lay down a new and permanent foundation on how to support yourself emotionally. In other words, how loving yourself can become a built-in emotional support system. This is not a time to mentalize what is coming up. The call to action here is to actually BE with your emotions. Honor what is coming up.
What on earth does it mean to BE With your emotions?
Being with your emotions means actually allowing them. I want to even suggest loving them. Loving all the parts of you. Giving your emotions space to be explored and expressed in a gentle and compassionate way can be life-changing. In other words, feeling your feelings and not making yourself wrong for what you’re feeling. This is a self-love practice that is done in a private sacred space. In no way am I suggesting that you take your feelings out on anyone else as you attempt to explore and express them. This is about learning to create a new type of foundation for yourself in a beautiful and supportive way.
Now, it’s possible that what is being revealed to be healed probably isn’t kitty cats and bunny rabbits. It’s likely more similar to fire breathing dragons and big scary monsters. (Given that it’s been buried, and you’ve been afraid to look until now.)
Remember the Pixar Animation Monsters, Inc? Remember how that sweet little child just loved up those monsters? What if you did that? What if you attempted to love the monsters and the dragons instead of trying to kill them? See, here is the thing. The emotions are yours. They don’t belong to anyone else. They are going on inside of you. When you can take 100% responsibility for the emotions inside of you, you can also step in as a powerful presence of loving and comfort yourself deeply.
Loving Yourself Means Loving All of You
In the multifaceted beings that we are, we have a lot of parts. We have light parts and dark parts and shiny reflective parts and dull parts. We are dynamic and multidimensional. We are both human and Spiritual. What I am suggesting here is loving all of it. Loving all of you. Loving even the parts you don’t want to look at. And, doing so with tender compassion.
Be Gentle with Your Sweet Self
Loving yourself is a practice. I would also suggest this task requires help from a higher power – whatever that is in your life. I like to imagine my higher self is actually the one doing the loving of my human self. I imagine my Authentic Self is handling this. My Authentic Self is the part of me I know is the energetic, spiritual side of my nature which is comprised of the energy of pure Divine love. I let this higher part of my Being handle the tall task of Loving my humanness. In this, I believe a new strategy is birthed in Loving Yourself. And in that, I begin to love my wholeness. All my parts. Even the messy emotional parts.
If you are interested in learning more about what a transformational journey could look like for you, I invite you to experience a 90-minute complimentary discovery session with me. This is where we explore together where you are currently in your life, where you’d like to be, and what are the things standing in your way. If this resonates, you can secure a session HERE.
Donna Bond is a Soul-Centered catalyst for personal transformation serving as an author, speaker, and spiritual life coach.
Donna offers inspiring in-depth life coaching programs, private personal transformation coaching journeys, transformational women’s retreats, online classes, and workshops. She supports clients across the globe to achieve new heights of meaningful success, personal fulfillment, and Spiritual aliveness using the principles and practices of Spiritual Psychology.
Donna’s intention and personal mission is to help raise the vibration on the planet through individual transformation of consciousness, assisting others in thriving in a more open, authentic, loving, and fulfilled life.
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