by Christine Alisa
The fruits of our labor are not only found in everyday life. They also exist in our deepest self, what may be called the soul or higher self. We evolve through our internal work: the processing of the levels. The structure of our soul self is in constant flux. It is shaped by our experiences and our reactions to those experiences. We call it evolution of the soul.
Being in alignment with our soul’s journey is the spiritual path. We listen to our deepest yearnings and desires. The difference between our earthly desires and the soul’s are boundless. Making our humanly desires a priority over our soul’s creates a destruction pattern. We are in a state of confliction and often feel lost.
The soul cries out to be heard. Listen to it calling you. The messages may appear in your dreams, in moments of discontent or in the ruffles of leaves blowing in the wind. It can be subtle or come crashing down as an illness, accident or fork in the road in your career.
Your soul is reaching out to find a channel, a conversation with you. Listen for it. Acknowledge your soul. Greet it with warmth and love as you start your day. You are as one. Body mind and soul are your traveling companions together on this earthly plain where lessons are learned, minds are awakened and possibilities of evolution take place.
My daughter’s birth mother lived in another state and her birth father was out of the picture. We corresponded by mail and occasional phone calls until my daughter was thirteen years old when we went to visit. It was only then that my daughter decided that she would like to meet her as well. Even though my daughter and I have a very strong bond, connecting with the birth mother had its heart pangs. What helped me the most was setting reasonable boundaries and watching my daughter as we all interacted.
There are different philosophies regarding the relationship between adoptive and birth parents. Some believe that it is too confusing for the child to know the birth parent as they develop. Others are of the thought that healthy interactions with the adoptive families and birth parents help the child/adolescent to understand who they are. I guess I was a mix of both of those opinions. As my daughter matured, she communicated with her birth mother. I would intervene if I thought my daughter felt pressured or uncomfortable.
Turning the Hourglass: Children’s Passage Through Traumas and Past Lives, Wondrous Places of the Heart: Alternative Therapy with Children and Your Amazing Itty Bitty Communicating with Your Teenager Book: 15 Essential Steps to Creating a Better Relationship with Your Teen. Her upcoming book, Your Amazing Itty Bitty The Ordinary Shaman: 15 Simple Steps to Bring Shamanism Into Your Life is due to be published this year.