By Kara of Pet’s Eye View
“Kara, some of my friends are nervous about you “reading” their pets.”
This surprising statement came from Mary, a longtime client who recently needed my help preparing her two dogs for a big move.
“Why?” I asked.
“They’re afraid their pets will tell you about fights they had with their spouse, or that they don’t do everything perfectly.”
This was enlightening: I had no idea people had this fear. The main reason is that I spend so much time chatting with animals and hearing how they adore their guardians and even feel protective of them. Companion animals are far more concerned with making you feel joy than they are getting into gory detail about any of your human failings. You needn’t fear that your Labrador Frank is going to spill the beans on how messy you are, or that you and your spouse had a screaming match last night.
Let’s say you call me because Moxie, your dog, has seemed very depressed lately and your cat, Bernie, is withdrawn. I meditate, connect with your pets, and introduce myself. Some become very chatty at that point, but all of them are happy to tell me a few things they love about their lives and what they enjoy doing, seeing, smelling or hearing. They’re very upbeat beings! They will usually tell me quite proudly that they think their jobs are in your home, and they show me loving interactions with you and others in the house.
Now, once I ask about the depression or the withdrawal, several factors are usually presented. Perhaps a small child is not gentle enough with the cat. If so, Bernie will show me pictures of trying to escape the grasp of a little one, but with little judgement, just a quiet request to you to please give her “alone-time.” Perhaps Moxie the Lab is missing his dog friend who died, and also shows me that you are coming and going a lot, lately, “She’s very busy, very busy…I miss her.” This commentary might be followed with an image of a leash, which is a direct emotional plea to spend more quality time.
Trust me, there’s no harsh command like, “Walk me more, you miserable person!” Rather, they appreciate your desire to connect at a deeper level.
You are the sun and the moon to your companion—even to the cats! Their first instinct is to protect you and speak about you kindly. Even if there is a lot of yelling in a home that gives them some anxiety, they are gentle in the way they express that you may be feeling tense. Think of them as your most compassionate friend who seems to understand that you have hard days and only wants to help you be whole. So, don’t worry—pick up the phone, let’s talk to your pet and see how you can live your best life together.